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UPDATED: Police: Sayville Couple Endangered Welfare of a Minor

Old Broadway Avenue residents arrested and charged after teen suffers alcohol poisoning.

This story was updated to include information on the teenager and the identity of the couple charged.

A Sayville couple was arrested early Sunday morning for endangering the welfare of a minor who suffered alcohol poisoning during a party taking place on the couple's property on Old Broadway Avenue, according to Suffolk Police.

According to police the arrest took place at 1:33 a.m. Police said they responded to a 911 caller who reported that a 16-year-old female had become sick from alcohol poisoning in an apartment separate from the couple's home. Upon arrival police said they found evidence of a beer drinking game, shot glasses and more than two dozen underage teens in the apartment.

Police said some of the teens were visibly intoxicated and witnesses stated that large quantities of vodka had been consumed. According to police, the couple’s 16-year-old daughter had invited friends to the home after an event held at St. Anthony’s High School. Several of the guests, said police, were teens who did not know the girl but had heard about the party.

John Butler, 54, and Stacie Butler, 54, were arrested and charged with endangering the welfare of a child, said police, and released after posting bail. They are scheduled to appear in court at a later date.

The teenager was taken to Brookhaven Memorial Hospital for treatment, according to Suffolk Police.

Pepsiiiii March 25, 2013 at 01:30 PM
Steve does it make you feel better about yourself by insulting somebody that you don't even know? You're probably a grown man and its absolutely pathetic and ignorant to comment something like that. You are all so quick to judge it is disgusting. These are great parents who did the right thing by calling the cops when they were aware that their daughters friend drank too much. And for te record pat Kelly, the wife doesn't even drink.
Pink March 25, 2013 at 06:24 PM
These parents are heroes in my eyes and it disgusts me how much torture the media is putting them through. Such great people who truely don't deserve this
NotWhoYouThinkIAm March 25, 2013 at 06:32 PM
How are they heroes? I'm all ears.
thetruth March 25, 2013 at 07:36 PM
thats disrespectful dont call people stupid if you dont know the situation, thanks.
thetruth March 25, 2013 at 07:40 PM
it was no ones fault none of you know what really happened those parents r very nice people and it was no ones fault the girl clearly didnt know her limits and the kids were in a seperate apartment how were the parents supposed to know. kids drink all the time it just so happens the blame for one persons mistake was put on these parents. they clearly dont deserve this.
amy peters March 25, 2013 at 08:15 PM
Are you kidding? Act your age you disgusting piece of trash.
amy peters March 25, 2013 at 08:16 PM
I cannot believe adults think it is okay to comment such immature statements. I hope one day you get what you deserve, asshole.
amy peters March 25, 2013 at 08:17 PM
I hope you rot in hell
the truth is March 25, 2013 at 09:05 PM
wake up call l:33 AM is a little late for teens 16 yrs old to be still partying or shall I say even be out. If they had a curfew for a much earlier time, they would have been home in their own homes. It is EVERY parents fault who's child was out at that party!!! They should have been told much earlier, "party over" have your parents pick you up. And the parents should have been looking to pick them up. Kids will be kids as always, we all were once, but we have to do our job and parent them constantly. Hopefully this is a wake up callto all parents!!!!
WelcomeMatt March 25, 2013 at 09:26 PM
Im 52 years old and remember a time when it was cool to joke about DWI (Foster Brooks). I remember when underage drinking was sort of "decriminalized". No one cared that the local 7-11 sold beer to underage kids. But good news: those are no longer realities, just memories. Thankfully DWI's became "un-cool" and "un-funny" and EXTREMELY punitive. Selling kids beer now means you lose your store (see Jetco!). And whether intentional or not, hosting kids parties where drinking is involved can now be punishable by law. I feel bad, to a degree, for John and Stacie, as they are early test cases. But within 5 years no well intentioned parents will let teens gather at their house for a party without EXTREME supervision for fear of arrest, police records, legal fees and lawsuits. One more nail in the coffin of teen drinking. Sorry John and Stacie, I'm sure you're great people, I'm sure we'd have a ball going out to dinner together, but you were wrong for not knowing what was going on in that apartment. You were wrong for not being more active, caring parents. And now you'll pay a commensurate price for that. The good news: the more people know about your situtation John and Stacie, the less likely they are to be as careless as you were this past weekend.
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 04:10 AM
Why are you hanging the parents from a tree? Out of respect for their children, I’m sure the parents did not want to embarrass their daughter by sitting in the midst of her friends. I would guess that they felt obligated to trust their daughter, to make sure, that the party was under control. Well! The daughter let her parents down! Are the parents certified, obligated, or authorized, to give sobriety tests to her daughter’s guests? Does anyone know if this female was drunk when she arrived? So; a drunk walks onto your property and you will be arrested! There is something wrong with this picture! The party was in an apartment separate from the couple's home. The fact that the parents are paying to have their daughter study at Saint Anthony’s High School, is a testimony to the character of her parents. This parochial school frowns on drunkenness. If the parents were distributing the alcohol to the minors, they should be arrested and punished; in this case they did not distribute the alcohol. Why were they arrested? Laws are passed in haste with no regard to the fact that a person is innocent until being proved guilty in a court of law. This country is suffering from an epidemic of reckless laws that often result in the person being considered guilty until being proven innocent in a court of law. If someone strolls into your son or daughter’s birthday party, stoned; you could be arrested! I have a problem with that! If you call 911 you will be arrested!
Alex Butler March 26, 2013 at 06:54 AM
The lesson the police are sending here is simple dont call for an ambulance when someone is overdosing on alcohol because you may be arrested, throw them in a cold shower right?
friend March 26, 2013 at 11:28 AM
They are supposed to be responsible for other people's children. It's called proper supervision. They should have been aware of what was going on. If they didn't want to "embarrass" their kid, they could have popped in from time to time to see what was going on. There were kids present that their own daughter didn't know. Just because someone sends their children to a private school does not make them a better parent either. I am quite sure the kids that attend private & parochial schools will tell you they have they same problems with alcohol at parties as kids in public schools. Underage drinking is a big problem in this area and the parents need to wake up before something tragic happens.
WelcomeMatt March 26, 2013 at 03:07 PM
Ben, no offense but you're living in a bit of a dream world. Do you honestly think because st anthonys "frowns" on drunkeness it means the kids who go there dont party just as much (some people say more) as compared to their public school brethren? Why did their daughter and friends have access to this apartment without parental supervision in the first place? That in itself displays a level of irresponsibility. Laws may not be perfect but the reason they are made is to discourage behavior that gets people hurt or killed. I guarantee there will be no more unsupervised parties in that apartment. And there shouldnt have been in the first place.
Pink March 26, 2013 at 03:40 PM
There are millions of parents reading this, sitting In guilt. It's so unfortunate the Butlers are the ones that have to be tortured to set the example for the rest of the world. Two of the sweetest people I've ever met
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 03:48 PM
Part 1: I too was a teenager; what did teenagers do at that time? I have seen my peers kick start their Saturday evening fling by taking Alcohol before arriving at their first destination for the evening. Did their parents know about the alcohol; absolutely not. Teenagers used peppermint lozenges to mask the smell of liquor from their parents and other adults. The youth from my generation, took pride in the fact that they are able to deceive their parents, and not get caught! After all, “parents are old fashion and not very cool!” The adults were deceived by the underage drinkers, and should not be held responsible. In this case the adults were the victims! OK! Trick number two! Leave the bottle of Vodka in the car! Yep! Every half hour the youths would go to the car and put vodka in the soda. The adults had “no clue.” Should unsuspecting unrelated adults be automatically arrested, and put in jail? Did we succeed in fooling adults that were overseeing a party? Yep! The adults had no clue that everyone at the party was stoned!
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 03:53 PM
Part 2: “Hey my friend said that there was going to be a big party at his friend’s house, let’s check it out.” Thus, a gang of teens that were already stoned, crashing a party that they were not personally invited to! Have you not seen this scenario before? Generation to generation, nothing has really changed. If the adults knowingly dispensed alcohol to underage drinkers, they should be arrested. On the basis of my personal observations, the adults had no clue that everybody at a given party had consumed some amount of alcohol. Youths are now in more jeopardy than before, because of this misguided arrest policy. If a teenager gets drunk at a party, the tendency would be to throw the drunken person out the door, ASAP, before something happens. The youth could then collapse and die in the street, and that is OK with the law! This policy must be changed! How about saying "Thank You," to an adult that reporets a drunken teenager?
Vito March 26, 2013 at 04:00 PM
As I read all these comments defending the actions, or should I say inaction, of these "parents" it becomes quite clear why we have such problems.
Vito March 26, 2013 at 04:01 PM
Maybe we can give all the drunk kids trophies too! After all, every one is a winner and no one ever does anything wrong.
NotWhoYouThinkIAm March 26, 2013 at 04:55 PM
You are just so wrong. First of all, the article states that when the police arrived there were signs of drinking games and a large amount of vodka consumed. If the Butlers had "popped in" as you suggested they surely would have seen that. Which leads us to the question of which parents gave the Butlers permission to let their (other parents') children drink??? I bet NONE of them said to their kids, 'Oh yeah, the Butlers are cool, go over there and get your party on, you crazy teenager you." The Butlers grossly overstepped the boundaries in letting the kids drink on their property. There is no way in hell they were unaware of what was going on. Maybe they didn't know the scope of what was going on but they damn sure knew there was drinking happening. No adults have the right to let underage drinkers partake, and if you do and you get caught, a la the Butlers, then you face the consequences. The argument that "kids have always snuck around drinking" is irrelevent to this fact. That said, I agree with all the posters asking why 16yos were allowed out until 1:30 in the morning. That's a lazy and poor parenting choice as well.
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 04:56 PM
"inaction?" The parents had no idea of what their little angels were doing. "The youth from my generation, took pride in the fact that they are able to deceive their parents, and not get caught!" Punishment of the innocent is not a solution to this problem.
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 05:21 PM
What teenagers used to do at parties that I attended was wait until the parents came down to check on them; that gave them about 30 minutes to do what they wanted. The presence of shot glasses could prove that the parents were deceived. How about not arresting anyone, and calling both minors and chaperones, into chambers with a judge and social worker, who will determine who is the guilty party? If the parents are guilty, then it is OK to arrest them. We need compassion for both the minors and parents.
Vito March 26, 2013 at 05:51 PM
Parents who don't "know what their little angels are doing" are being willfully ignorant. When I was growing up we all knew the houses where there were no rules. The parents weren't being fooled, they turned a blind eye to what was happening. Parenting is a a 24 hour job.
Frustrated parent March 26, 2013 at 07:20 PM
The bottom line is, as parents it is our responsiblity to know what is going on with our children. It has been known for some time that the law states any underage drinking at any residence is punishible by law. The community as a whole is responsible. there is an atmospere of pressure to turn a blind eye. Now that the law is being enforced people have alot of opinions. I am sure that the Butlers are wonderful people and many of us could be in their shoes. you can't control your children all of the time but you can control what goes on in your home. I don't think anyone should sit in hudgement of these parents. They clearly broke the law as many people in this community are guilty of the same thing. They were just the ones that got caught. I think we should learn from this and move on. I am sure the butlers will.
Ben Vitale March 26, 2013 at 08:05 PM
Can you tell me what judge determined that the Butlers “clearly broke the law?” This is your personal opinion. Arrest can be a life changing experience, but not the way you think! For example; if I, as a parent, had been arrested 50 years ago for a similar alleged offense, I would not have qualified to work at the establishments that provided for my family. This is “serious stuff!” The lives of both the parents and the children could have been permanently ruined. Arrest is something that should not be taken lightly. So! The stupid acts of immature teenagers can now take down an entire family! Now that is scary! God knows what damage this arrest and publicity has caused the Butlers! Is it possible that the Butlers will no longer be able to pay for their daughter’s tuition at her parochial school? The punishment does not match the alleged offense. Again; reckless legislation.
J Smith March 27, 2013 at 01:18 AM
As the parent of a 16 year old you can be damn sure if there were over two dozen teens at my house....drinking alcohol no less, my husband and I would know about it. These parents turned a blind eye. Honestly, does anyone think they didn't know what was going on??? Seriously people. I don't care how "nice" the parents are, I went to school with John and his siblings. Doesn't matter. Parents that let this go on in their homes (or detached apartments - whatever) are idiots. They got what they deserve.
Mary March 28, 2013 at 05:46 PM
I grew up in Sayville, but never drank as a teen. It wasn't because I was a wonderful child, it was because I had wonderful parents. They knew my friends, and their parents. They knew where I was and with whom. They checked up on me. They were my parents, not my friends. These parents didn't know what was going on because they either didn't want to know, or couldn't be bothered to find out. The kids that were there likely knew this was a 'no rules' house. In addition, where were the parents of the guests of this party? Who lets their 16 year old stay out until 1:30 in the morning? All the adults in this situation dropped the ball.
Natalie Ronan March 31, 2013 at 09:54 PM
Honestly everyone needs to stop viciously attacking these parents. I grew up with them like a second family and my daughter used to be best friends with their daughter I'm not saying what happened was right, but we don't know what happened and can't jump to conclusions. I know exactly where this apartment is and I know that if the parents were inside the house, there is no way to know what's going on inside this apartment. People need to stop attacking them due to one mistake they obviously trusted their daughter and she unfortunately let them down. Teenagers will be teenagers. We need to see that stuff like this happens every single day in any place and just because this one incident was publicized doesn't mean it's the only time It has happened or will happen again. These are good parents and their daughter is a good kid. I don't care what you people say, this family is very close to us and I hope things work out<3
Ben Vitale April 01, 2013 at 01:45 AM
The Internet has given birth to a new type of government that has the power to condemn a person on the basis of hearsay, rather than fact. In the “old obsolete type of government that we once had,” a person was presumed to be innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. This type of government was too inefficient and too expensive to manage. It is now acceptable practice to both prosecute and convict an individual, via a mechanism called a “Blog Comment Box.” The beauty of the new system of government is that it is very efficient; no facts, judge, jury, lawyer, or testimony is needed to get a conviction. Testimony by the accused or his legal representative is not required to get a conviction. This new form of government gets its roots from a practice that was common, many years ago; it is called “A Lynching.” If two or more people independently decide that you are guilty; you are indeed guilty. The two people that decided that a person was guilty, would then empower themselves to arrest and execute their subject. God help us all “people.” Look what you have done! I might mention that the old laws that pertain to liable are still in force. If anyone makes a damaging statement, in a comment box, against another person, he is still subject to a law suit. If you did not use the word “opinion,” in your accusation, you could be sued for liable. If I were the Butlers, I would have already spoken with my Lawyer!
Vito April 08, 2013 at 02:58 PM
I am more worried about the "new type of government" that absolves anyone and everyone of personal responsibility. I must also add you pinned my irony meter with this post. You seem to comment a bit to much to be the one taking others to task for expressing their opinions in this forum.

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