If your love life has gotten a little stale lately, and you need to infuse some new life into it, try recreating the lost art of writing love letters, but with a modern twist -- send them to each other via email. With a little patience and a willing desire to learn, the two of you will reap the romantic benefits that this soul-expanding, heart-opening experience can inspire.
If you don’t believe in the power of the billet doux, get a hold of the romantic comedy, The Love Letter, and see how one letter, carefully crafted with words that were sensual, provocative, and tantalizing, penetrated the heart of each and every person who serendipitously stumbled upon it. Or watch Message in a Bottle and see how a letter sent out to sea produced waves of passion in the woman who fatefully found it washed up on the shore. If you want to watch a movie that revolved around a passionate love letter that Beethoven composed, check out Immortal Beloved. And can any of us forget the romantic scene in Sex in the City: the Movie where Carrie is reading a book of love letters out loud, in bed, to Big? Does it get anymore romantic than that? Yes, when the love letters you are reading were written especially for you or by you.
Don’t worry if you’re not a very good writer. Say what’s in your heart. Tell your partner how he/she makes you feel. Rekindle the original spark that ignited your love affair by reminiscing about the first time you met, the first time you kissed, the first time you made love, or the first time your realized that you had fallen in love. This is not the time to get hard-core graphic about sex. Try to think in terms of the old movies you can still see on Turner Classic movies, where you never actually saw anybody doing anything sexual, but the movie was steamy hot anyway. Think Gone with the Wind. Try putting yourself in an emotional time machine in which letters were the main vehicle people used to communicate their deepest feelings for each other.
If you need some help in getting started, try reading love letters that others have written. The book, Passionate Love Letters: an Anthology of Desire, by Michelle Lovric is an absolutely beautiful book to read and to look at, since you get to see photocopies of the actual love letters. You can read what Napoleon wrote to his beloved wife, Josephine; and what a host of other famous people, including the poetess Elizabeth Barrett had to say to her Twin Flame, Robert Browning. You can also just surf the web. There are countless numbers of web sites that have copies of famous and not so famous love letters to inspire you. Steal whole passages from these letters, if they say what you truly feel. After a while, the art of sensuous writing will begin to flow quite naturally between the two of you, and both of you will look forward to these passionate email exchanges.
The only rule is this: These letters are for your eyes only. They are a secret code that the two of you share with no one but each other. This way you will both feel free to express your innermost dreams, thoughts, and desires.
Don’t just give this gift of love on special occasions; try making a weekly ritual out of it to keep the flame of passion burning all year round.
Cindi Sansone-Braff is “The Romance Whisperer,” and the author of Grant Me a Higher Love: How to Go from the Relationship from Hell to One that’s Heaven Sent by Scaling The Ladder of Love. Visit her website at: www.grantmeahigherlove.com.
You may contact her at: firstname.lastname@example.org or call her at: 631-475-4266.